A Fresh Perspective on Every Season of Motherhood
I see so many stressed out and crazy busy moms. They live and breathe exhaustion. It seems like so many moms are just waiting for that next season of motherhood. I’ve heard these phrases countless times:
- once my kids are out of diapers then…
- once my kids are old enough to go to school…
- once my kids are old enough to drive…
Why do we always think that grass is greener on the other side? Why aren’t we enjoying the season that we are in? We seem to think that the older our kids get, the easier our lives will be. But from my observation, it seems that parents seem to be more stressed out the older their kids get. So why?
4 Ways to Start Enjoying the Season You are in
We are too Busy
We start off being busy with feeding our kids and changing diapers and managing our babies lives and then we transition to different forms of busyness like taking kids to practices.
So many moms I know don’t know how to be still. We are not meant to run a marathon for eighteen years. We need to rest and take care of ourselves.
Cut out the activities and obligations that are stressing out the family. Start saying no to things. The best memories our kids have are from the moments when we are not busy, and we take the time to enjoy life.
Take Care of Yourself First, then Your Kids
Many moms serve, serve, serve to the point that they snap at any little thing and they believe they will never have time to do what they want until their kids go off to college.
We have to start putting ourselves before our kids. This may sound selfish but stay with me. If we take care of ourselves well, we become better mothers. Shouldn’t we be modeling to our kids how to take care of themselves? If we run ourselves ragged, how will that help them?
Just because we have kids, doesn’t mean that we need to put our life on hold for years. If our identity is wrapped up in our kids, what happens when they move out?
Start doing the hobbies you love. Start journaling, reading, running, and whatever else brings you joy. Let your kids participate in your passions. They need to see you as a person and not just their mom.
Step out of Survival Mode
So many moms are living in survival mode all. of. the. time. and they believe that that is the way of motherhood. There can be seasons of survival mode, but that shouldn’t be our permanent existence.
I think that some moms realize that they are in survival mode, but a lot of moms don’t. They have been on the motherhood journey and are just exhausted.
Ladies, there is hope. We are meant to live for more than just mundane tasks and being a chauffeur. Being teachable and having an open mindset is what is blocking mothers from enjoying freedom. You have control of your time. Start believing it. You can make the change.
Get Rid of Your Stuff
This one may throw you off, but hear me out. What we own is one of the biggest stressors we have.
Once I started purging my possessions, I have had more time, energy, and way less stress. I have been able to be more present with my kids.
I’ve been helping other moms go through their possessions and they all have found freedom. They are able to do family outings and do things instead of clean. Start cutting out stressors in your life.
If you are feeling trapped in motherhood, slow down, breathe and cut the excess in your calendar, activities, and even your stuff. Start taking care of yourself, so you can care well for your family.
We are in this together, let’s enjoy each moment with our precious kids.